hey girl, me too

To all the girls who feel sad on this Father’s Day.. I’m sorry. Me too. You aren’t alone. Whether you don’t have a relationship with your dad or he’s passed away or you’re a mom who’s missing the father role in your family, I feel you. I know it’s hard, I understand your pain. But I also know your strength. I know you’ve got this. I know you’re doing the best you can. I know the “why me’s” all to well, and I also know that if you dwell on them they will eat you alive. Today, as it’s been a fight, I’ve found peace in God. A God who never fails, never leaves us. Always has our best interest. He’s the Dad you never had, the Dad you wish for your children. He always has a plan, and even though it hurts right now he’s working it out. He’s growing you. Lately I realize more than anything that he’s breaking my heart for what breaks His, not so that I can live in constant pain and agony but so that I can truly find fulfillment and love and connection in this life with the people around me. So that I can be a help and be helped. Healing comes with communication and connection. Nothing connects people more than vulnerability, more than walking through struggle together. There’s not much more hope than you can give to someone than by saying me too. So me too. I get it. With all that said, most of all I whole heartedly want you to know that you are not alone today and that you are vastly loved. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have. Today I am grateful for the great men I do have in my life, I’m grateful for the men my baby girl is surrounded by. I’m thankful for my Heavenly Father. I’m thankful for my dad. For my brothers that will one day be fathers. Today it’s okay if you cry, it’s okay if your heart hurts. But today choose to focus on the good. And have hope. Because there is always good to be found, it’s just a matter of allowing yourself to see it.